by: Vivian Johnson
Most single parents battle with themselves and others over what should and should not be told to the children. Some say there is no right or wrong answer.
My personal opinion is this; you shouldn’t drag them into a relationship you aren’t sure of.
When you reach the point where you are actually communicating with each other through every way possible, and the two of you have met face-to-face more than once. Then at this point I would mention to the children that you have met someone.
Tell them about the person but do not discuss your future plans with this person just yet. Trust me, when it comes to internet relationships things happen and the plans may literally fall apart at the last minute.
If the two of you are making plans regarding the future, do not tell the children until the last minute.
As a single parent it is our responsibility to make sure our children feel safe. If our personal life changes like the weather? Then we should spare the children.
They shouldn’t have their little worlds tossed upside down whenever something goes wrong with our online relationship.
Should I tell my children about my online love? Absolutely not! At least not until all of the plans the two of you have made comes to fruition, and not until then.
Some parents tell their young children everything that happens every day in the new relationship. I know parents that have introduced their children to their “potential partner” over the phone or webcam! I am against that 100%!
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
Online Dating-The Problem With Online Dating
by: Vivian Johnson
One of the main problems with online dating is the extensive selection that is available. With so many singles we find ourselves getting caught up and involved with so many of them.
We would save a lot of time and emotions by being more selective. That way we are available for the Singles that fit our “must have” list.
Online dating is not like your local bar and grille where you may have a selection of 7-10 eligible singles on a good night!
Online your choices are endless! If you don’t find who you want on one site? You just move onto the next singles site.
Start with your list of “must haves” and begin shopping! Take your time...the Singles aren’t going anywhere!
Another problem with online dating, you can never be sure the photo of the person is really the person you are corresponding with! But I think that is a small risk for the quantity of singles you will have access to.
But look at it from the other direction. The Singles you meet in public could be giving you the wrong name, the wrong age; their current relationship status could be a lie. So, if someone is going to lie, they are a liar. Whether online or off...a liar is a liar!
That is the reason I ask so many questions. If that offends some of the Singles? Too Bad! I have a right to know what I am dealing with from the very beginning. If the Single you are giving the “Third degree” to has been online dating for any length of time, they will understand your skepticism. If not...oh well...Next!!?
One of the main problems with online dating is the extensive selection that is available. With so many singles we find ourselves getting caught up and involved with so many of them.
We would save a lot of time and emotions by being more selective. That way we are available for the Singles that fit our “must have” list.
Online dating is not like your local bar and grille where you may have a selection of 7-10 eligible singles on a good night!
Online your choices are endless! If you don’t find who you want on one site? You just move onto the next singles site.
Start with your list of “must haves” and begin shopping! Take your time...the Singles aren’t going anywhere!
Another problem with online dating, you can never be sure the photo of the person is really the person you are corresponding with! But I think that is a small risk for the quantity of singles you will have access to.
But look at it from the other direction. The Singles you meet in public could be giving you the wrong name, the wrong age; their current relationship status could be a lie. So, if someone is going to lie, they are a liar. Whether online or off...a liar is a liar!
That is the reason I ask so many questions. If that offends some of the Singles? Too Bad! I have a right to know what I am dealing with from the very beginning. If the Single you are giving the “Third degree” to has been online dating for any length of time, they will understand your skepticism. If not...oh well...Next!!?
Online Dating-The Reason Online Dating Works
by: Vivian Johnson
We probably all know why online dating doesn’t work, but I want to let you know the reasons online dating does work.
The main reason online dating works is because of the vast number of eligible Singles that are online. If you can’t find what you want on one site, you simply move on to the next site.
If you are out “clubbing” you will have a very limited number of Singles to choose from. While online, there are literally millions of singles!
Another reason online dating works is we are able to totally “drop out” of the picture if we are being pursued by someone we have no interest in.
Unfortunately, if we are being pursued offline, using a club as an example, we can be followed from the bar to the dance floor to a table even all of the way to the parking lot!
But online, we can simply choose to stop responding! If the pursuit turns into harassment and stalking, we can have the site administrator totally block them!
Another reason online dating works is that we can “qualify” a person before deciding whether or not we want to get to know them better. While offline we can ask a lot of questions and if we don’t like the answers we are rarely rude enough to look someone in the face and say; “thanks for your interest, but I am not interested in you. Bye...”
I find that online dating has a lot of “safety features” that work in the favor of the Singles! You just have to know what these “safety features” are and how to use them!
We probably all know why online dating doesn’t work, but I want to let you know the reasons online dating does work.
The main reason online dating works is because of the vast number of eligible Singles that are online. If you can’t find what you want on one site, you simply move on to the next site.
If you are out “clubbing” you will have a very limited number of Singles to choose from. While online, there are literally millions of singles!
Another reason online dating works is we are able to totally “drop out” of the picture if we are being pursued by someone we have no interest in.
Unfortunately, if we are being pursued offline, using a club as an example, we can be followed from the bar to the dance floor to a table even all of the way to the parking lot!
But online, we can simply choose to stop responding! If the pursuit turns into harassment and stalking, we can have the site administrator totally block them!
Another reason online dating works is that we can “qualify” a person before deciding whether or not we want to get to know them better. While offline we can ask a lot of questions and if we don’t like the answers we are rarely rude enough to look someone in the face and say; “thanks for your interest, but I am not interested in you. Bye...”
I find that online dating has a lot of “safety features” that work in the favor of the Singles! You just have to know what these “safety features” are and how to use them!
Online Dating-The Secret To Attracting Love Online
by: Vivian Johnson
We all have the ability to attract love anywhere and everywhere. We just have to know how!
The secret to attracting love online is...
Knowing! Knowing who we are...Knowing what we want...Knowing where to find what we want!
Do you know who you really are? If not take the time needed to find out before going any further. Once you know who you are, you will need to know what you want. Can you honestly say you know what you want? The majority of the Singles go online without a clue as to who they are looking for.
Once you know the “who” and the “what” then you have to know the “where”.
The secret to attracting love online...is finding exactly where they are. You want to be patient enough to take the time needed to browse, and browse until you find the Singles that fit the specifications of who and what you are looking for.
Begin by browsing the largest online dating sites. I would pick 2 or 3 sites to work with.
You may even want to pick a few of the “specialty” sites. The ones that cater to more specifics based on age, race, religion, etc. You might want to pick 1 or 2 of these sites also.
With all of the online dating sites you decide to use, keep notes. Within your notes, list the site and the User Names of the Singles that catch your attention.
At the end of your free trials, review your notes. You want to join the site/s that has produced the best results for you!
We all have the ability to attract love anywhere and everywhere. We just have to know how!
The secret to attracting love online is...
Knowing! Knowing who we are...Knowing what we want...Knowing where to find what we want!
Do you know who you really are? If not take the time needed to find out before going any further. Once you know who you are, you will need to know what you want. Can you honestly say you know what you want? The majority of the Singles go online without a clue as to who they are looking for.
Once you know the “who” and the “what” then you have to know the “where”.
The secret to attracting love online...is finding exactly where they are. You want to be patient enough to take the time needed to browse, and browse until you find the Singles that fit the specifications of who and what you are looking for.
Begin by browsing the largest online dating sites. I would pick 2 or 3 sites to work with.
You may even want to pick a few of the “specialty” sites. The ones that cater to more specifics based on age, race, religion, etc. You might want to pick 1 or 2 of these sites also.
With all of the online dating sites you decide to use, keep notes. Within your notes, list the site and the User Names of the Singles that catch your attention.
At the end of your free trials, review your notes. You want to join the site/s that has produced the best results for you!
Online Dating-The Secret To Finding The Love Of Your Life Online
by: Vivian Johnson
That is the goal of every online single! We all want to find the love of our life!
Never give up, because it is possible and it is happening every single day!
The secret to finding the love of your life online is knowing exactly what you want. We can’t go into online dating without knowing exactly the type of person the love of our life is. We need to know what they are like inside and outside!
In my case I am 6’ tall. The love of my life must be over 6’ tall. I am full figured and really slim men make me feel larger than I want to feel! I am a very involved with the church, so I wouldn’t get along too well with an atheist. These are things that must be shared from the very beginning! If I have developed feelings for someone, then discovered they were only 5’6”, we’re going to have a problem!
Things that are the most important to me have to be “cleared” from the very beginning. That way I can save myself and others a lot of time.
And the singles that are online to sincerely find the love of their life appreciate when someone clearly says; “thanks for your interest, but I am sure someone else would be better suited for you than me.”
The secret to finding the love of your life is to be completely honest about who you are and who you are looking for!
That is the goal of every online single! We all want to find the love of our life!
Never give up, because it is possible and it is happening every single day!
The secret to finding the love of your life online is knowing exactly what you want. We can’t go into online dating without knowing exactly the type of person the love of our life is. We need to know what they are like inside and outside!
In my case I am 6’ tall. The love of my life must be over 6’ tall. I am full figured and really slim men make me feel larger than I want to feel! I am a very involved with the church, so I wouldn’t get along too well with an atheist. These are things that must be shared from the very beginning! If I have developed feelings for someone, then discovered they were only 5’6”, we’re going to have a problem!
Things that are the most important to me have to be “cleared” from the very beginning. That way I can save myself and others a lot of time.
And the singles that are online to sincerely find the love of their life appreciate when someone clearly says; “thanks for your interest, but I am sure someone else would be better suited for you than me.”
The secret to finding the love of your life is to be completely honest about who you are and who you are looking for!
Online Dating-The Truth About Being Seductive Online
by: Vivian Johnson
I think we will all agree that being seductive is an art. But being seductive online takes seduction to a whole new level!
First, we must all vow to only seduce someone we are romantically interested in.
The truth about being seductive online is, you need to realize everyone is different. So being seductive online means you have to know what will work for the person you are interested in seducing.
If you have known the person for any length of time, read their profile again and re-read some of the emails you have received from them.
You have to “zero” in on areas that they find seductive and romantic.
Once you have done that you will have to plant a seed within their thoughts. Once you find the way to plant this seed you want to plant it subtly. Over the years what has worked best for me is to “preplan” the seduction. The easiest way to do that is to have a “dream” or “thought” that is seductive and share it with the “target”.
This “dream” or “thought” must not be vulgar, crude or overly sexual. If it ends up being overly sexual, you will get a different result.
You want to realize that seduction doesn’t begin when the candles are lit, the love ballads are playing, and the fireplace is burning. It begins in the mind! Once you seduce the mind, the body will follow!
The truth about being seductive online lies in your imagination, in your desire, and in your delivery!
I think we will all agree that being seductive is an art. But being seductive online takes seduction to a whole new level!
First, we must all vow to only seduce someone we are romantically interested in.
The truth about being seductive online is, you need to realize everyone is different. So being seductive online means you have to know what will work for the person you are interested in seducing.
If you have known the person for any length of time, read their profile again and re-read some of the emails you have received from them.
You have to “zero” in on areas that they find seductive and romantic.
Once you have done that you will have to plant a seed within their thoughts. Once you find the way to plant this seed you want to plant it subtly. Over the years what has worked best for me is to “preplan” the seduction. The easiest way to do that is to have a “dream” or “thought” that is seductive and share it with the “target”.
This “dream” or “thought” must not be vulgar, crude or overly sexual. If it ends up being overly sexual, you will get a different result.
You want to realize that seduction doesn’t begin when the candles are lit, the love ballads are playing, and the fireplace is burning. It begins in the mind! Once you seduce the mind, the body will follow!
The truth about being seductive online lies in your imagination, in your desire, and in your delivery!
Online Dating-The Truth About Seducing Her Online
by: Vivian Johnson
Being seductive can either work or blowup in your face. Online may be a little easier.
The truth about seducing her online is that you must take your time and subtly get into her head where seduction actually begins. Contrary to what a lot of people believe, seduction does not begin below the waist! The sooner we realize this the better off we will all be!
The truth about seducing her online is that there must be a balance of romance and physical attraction. If one of these parts is missing, you will not be able to successfully seduce her online.
You want to take your time and get to know her well before trying to seduce her. Please do not attempt to seduce someone you really have no romantic interest in. That would really be wrong and unfair!
To seduce her online, make sure she is interested in you. Even a little bit will help. But if there is no interest there at all, it will blow up in your face.
The truth about seducing her online means you have to “plant a seed”. Then let it sit there for a while, before taking the seduction to the next level. Usually the “seed” is a preplanned “dream”, “thought” or “idea”.
After planting the seed and letting it set for a while...eventually you will want to very gently water that seed. You can do this by telling her the preplanned “dream”, “thought”, or “idea” in small increments. Pausing along the way to gauge her reaction. If you get to the point where she seems to shut down and block you out, it is time to stop.
The truth about seducing her starts with “planting a seed”. Then you want to “water the seed” and finally, watch her reaction.
With practice you will be able to take online seduction to an all new level!
Being seductive can either work or blowup in your face. Online may be a little easier.
The truth about seducing her online is that you must take your time and subtly get into her head where seduction actually begins. Contrary to what a lot of people believe, seduction does not begin below the waist! The sooner we realize this the better off we will all be!
The truth about seducing her online is that there must be a balance of romance and physical attraction. If one of these parts is missing, you will not be able to successfully seduce her online.
You want to take your time and get to know her well before trying to seduce her. Please do not attempt to seduce someone you really have no romantic interest in. That would really be wrong and unfair!
To seduce her online, make sure she is interested in you. Even a little bit will help. But if there is no interest there at all, it will blow up in your face.
The truth about seducing her online means you have to “plant a seed”. Then let it sit there for a while, before taking the seduction to the next level. Usually the “seed” is a preplanned “dream”, “thought” or “idea”.
After planting the seed and letting it set for a while...eventually you will want to very gently water that seed. You can do this by telling her the preplanned “dream”, “thought”, or “idea” in small increments. Pausing along the way to gauge her reaction. If you get to the point where she seems to shut down and block you out, it is time to stop.
The truth about seducing her starts with “planting a seed”. Then you want to “water the seed” and finally, watch her reaction.
With practice you will be able to take online seduction to an all new level!
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